Day 22 of 365!
I was watching the Rihanna 777 Documentary which I have to say was awesome. She sang this song Only Girl, which I have heard before, but this time I really listened to the lyrics. “I Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world, like I’m the only girl you’ll ever love, like I’m the only one that knows your heart!” I though, “I know what that feels like!” It was like this moment flashed in my mind and I ran right to my notebook to blog about it.
The last boyfriend I had treated me in ways that if you had asked me I would not have told you I needed it. Now I realized how much it made me feel like the lyrics in that song. Of course it was after it was over that I came to this realization. The things were small, but what a big difference they made. For instance one night we went out to dinner to Texas De Brazil (my favorite restaurant ever!) We were seated and then went to the buffet, He was done first, now he didn’t go and sit down, he came over to me and waited until I finished, he chatted and laughed with me and then walked with me to our table. Such a small thing right, but as you can see its something I remembered. On one other occasion we were on an escalator and he was standing next to me on the step, but I noticed that he had his body turned toward me, and he was so focus on me and what I was saying, again I felt like I was the only girl in the world. He was very affectionate in public, something I love, not to the point of being embarrassing, but you know always holding hands, or his arm around my waist always without fail. It occurred to me then that all of his attention made me feel confident in our relationship. Frankly as women we thrive on that feeling. When a woman doesn’t feel confident, or doubts that she has your full attention, or that your easily distracted it can create an anxiety that is not good for a relationship.
I am not saying that these are things you should copy or do for your girlfriend or wife or significant other. What I am saying is that its often the simplest things that you can do that make the largest impact. I know remembering birthdays, an anniversaries can be difficult to remember, but you would be amazed at how many points you would get for surprising her with flowers on a particular day because its one you remember. Like the anniversary of your very first date, or the first time you said “I love you!” Or maybe it has some other significance for you, I am telling you she will love that! Whats even better is that you will always remember the date! Now really Knowing your significant other is the other half the battle. You want to do something that is truly about her, not because she is a woman and women like flowers, or candy, but does she? Does she even like flowers, if so which one is her favorite? Oh and here is a good one, my best friend hates to be surprised, does your significant other? Than here the best gift I will ever give to you! Don’t surprise her, she doesn’t like it, just because you do, that doesn’t mean if you keep doing it’s going to change her and make her like them.
Relationships take work, and guys I know its hard because we woman can be super duper crazy and expect you to know it all, figure it out, and read our minds. The one thing I can tell is if she is confident in your relationship your world will run so much smoother!
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